Friends, aquaintances and total strangers tell me their secrets. I'm drawn to a man with integrity, self awareness, humor, a quick wit, and passion. One who is happy, kind, and has a sense of spiritual awareness. 18.Someone for whom a smile and a laugh come easily. One who is considered a good friend by others. Someone who finds something to enjoy in each day. 19.A man who puts in the effort to create to create the experiences he desires.